Five critical qualities to learn to forgive

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We can learn to forgive.
I think you have to want to.

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I don't think you can
without wanting to.

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I'm clear that The Forgiveness Project
is not about teaching a method.

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It's about inciting people's
imagination to think about

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what they may do.

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But I think the critical qualities
that are required

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which are five:

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So the first one is self discovery.

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I don't think you can
forgive without being willing

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to examine yourself

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because if you don't know yourself,
you do damage in the world.

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And then there's curiosity.

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You have to be interested
in asking the question why.

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And then there's empathy.

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And then there's
letting go of resentment

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and meaning making.

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All those things are a part
of the forgiveness journey.

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And I think understanding
that sort of helps people

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if they want to learn how to forgive.

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But it's hard you know.

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But I do know people who've done it

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who have started from
a position of hate

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and gone on a quest to forgive

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and have talked to people,
read loads of stuff,

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gone on courses, gone into therapy

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and made it their life's mission

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because they've realized that the other
route has been so damaging to them.

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And then there are people overnight.

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It's like flipping a pancake.

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Something happens.
They'll see something.