What is dualism, it’s effect and how to let it go
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- We choose one side, and once you choose it, you prefer it
Résumé
That's the beginnings of blindness, because all words are metaphors.
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The word dualism is
unfortunately not familiar that
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much to Western people,
although it should be.
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But I think it reveals the fact
that we're so comfortable
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inside of dualistic thinking
that we don't recognize it for
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the problem that it is.
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The mind is a binary system,
and it looks at everything in
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terms of short / tall,
black / white,
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Catholic / Protestant,
gay / straight.
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And most people are entirely
comfortable with that because
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it gives them the sort of
minimal clarity that gives them
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a sense of control.
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But the trouble is,
it's not true.
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Things are never that simple.
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There's gradations in between.
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I was told by a doctor that
when a little two year old
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first hears the word tall,
the only way they can process
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that without knowing that,
of course, is to distinguish
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it from short.
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Now that's all a little
two year old needs.
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But in fact, as you grow up,
you learn there's huge degrees
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between a tall person and a
short person, and you sort of
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accept that subtlety.
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But for all practical purposes,
we stay with that binary language
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and then it gets worse, we think,
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because we choose one side,
and once you choose it,
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you prefer it.
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And all I have to do is tell people
don't take my word for it.
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You watch your mind.
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As soon as you say any kind
of split, you always, within a nanosecond,
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judge one side to be higher
and one side to be lower.
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That's the beginning
of blindness,
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because people talk,
not realizing all
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words are metaphors.
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All words are metaphors.
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There's no other thing
except metaphorical language.
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But then we take those
metaphors as if they were
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a true, objective, metaphysical
description of the thing.
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So this makes for
very incomplete perception.
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And unfortunately, the politics
and the psychology that follows
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from it is even worse.
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So what we teach here at the
Center for Action and Contemplation
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is to teach people, frankly,
how to contemplate,
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which is to live in the whole picture
where you catch yourself splitting
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and dividing and identifying
with one side.
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And basically, you practice
not doing that.
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You leave the field of the
moment open, you see.
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That takes surrender and it
takes practice because the ego
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likes to identify with
one side.
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I don't know why
that's true, but it does.
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And presume that
one side is always better.
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This is getting us nowhere.
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I mean, here in America,
as you know, we just went
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through 18 months of this.
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So here we are,
a country with universities,
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churches everywhere and at the
highest levels of the United States,
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we found out most people,
even people with PhDs
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on the left or the right,
are still dualistic thinkers.
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So we got our work cut out for us.