What dialog requires to be fruitful

Avec : Ramez Salamé
dialogue empathy listening practices

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Having participate in a wide number of dialog meetings, Ramez explains the key elements he found for having a fruitful dialog.

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Well I think of two things:
First, courage.

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It requires courage especially
when you're in your own tribe,

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people are not for, dialog,
for peaceful solution.

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So it requires a lot of courage
to in spite of that to do a step

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towards the others
and invite them for a dialog.

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This is the first thing.
The other thing is this:

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the dialog to be fruitful

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for dialog to be fruitful

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you have to be ready to admit
where you have been wrong.

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You see.

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Or to listen carefully to
the other person in order to see

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how much he may be right
in what he's saying.

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So if, for instance,

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you feel that you
have been wrong 10%

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and the other person has
been wrong 90%,

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the person who is
a peace builder,

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a true peace builder, would
start by admitting that 10%.

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And by trying to rectify
you know these 10%.

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Put them right. And sometimes

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they can be portrayed just by
a simple word, you know, that:

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"I'm sorry. You're right".

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You know, in this respect
"you're right".

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And "we've done wrong,

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please forgive us".
You know, or something like that.

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Or do a step something you know

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which shows that you want to
put right this little apart.

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So this will...

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this will open the way for
the other person also to see also

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what he has been wrong

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though it's not a condition
when you do that yourself.

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You don't do it out of...
out of expecting the other

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you seek to do
what he has to do.

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But out of truth,

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you know, out of truth,
out of real true honesty.