The different stage of a forgiveness therapy

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When we look at forgiveness
therapy we think there are

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the following elements.

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First there is an injustice

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that sometimes comes on us
and we had nothing to do with it.

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Someone is fired
or abandoned in a relationship.

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Next comes pain, emotional pain,

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and that's natural.

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But if we don't know how
to get rid of that pain

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we eventually become
angry at having the pain.

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And that anger if we don't
know how to get rid of that

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can turn to unhealthy anger
as we get angry at the anger

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and we get angry at the pain
and we get angry at the injustice.

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If we don't know how
to get rid of that,

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we now can have
a downward spiral

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where not only are we
very very angry,

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what we call unhealthy anger,

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you can develop a sense of
hopelessness, depression, anxiety

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and your relationships
can then suffer from that.

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But when you forgive,

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forgiveness targets
the unhealthy anger

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because as you reach out
to the other who hurt you,

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your anger actually begins
to go down within you.

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As your anger goes down the pain

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that was initially developed
as a result of the injustice

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also goes down.

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So at the end of this process

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all that has accumulated
in terms of pain, anger,

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unhealthy anger and then all
the psychological complications

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can literally be reversed.