Freedom to forgive or not

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Are there certain incidents in
life that are so horrific,

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nobody should practice forgiveness?

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So my answer to that is I have
never seen such an incident.

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I have a friend in Montana who
lost a daughter through

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kidnapping and murder.

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She has forgiven the man and
was willing to fight against

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the death penalty for him
before he took his own

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life in prison.

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I have known people who

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forgiven betrayals,
abandonment.

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There is nothing that you could
name that I probably could name

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at least one person
who has forgiven.

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So here's the take home
message on that.

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If a person would be horrified
about forgiving

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let's say the murder of a child.

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We have to make room for the
freedom of those who are drawn

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to that banquet table and see
the beauty of forgiveness

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and choose willingly because
they're drawn to it to forgive.

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We should not condemn them if
they forgive nor should we

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condemn the person who won't
forgive that

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or forgive the person for that,
we don't forgive events,

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we forgive persons.

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So we have to be gentle
and not judgmental.

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Would we have a horrific event
if someone says

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I will never forgive that,
that's their choice.

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But if someone says
I will forgive, there sometimes

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is a tendency to
even condemn that because

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it seems so unfathomable, let the
person be who they are,

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and when a person says
I would never forgive

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the murderer of my child
that is their statement today.

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It is not necessarily
their final statement.

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They may change their mind
in a year or two.